Epiphanies Part III

Never ask God (the Universe or your Higher Power) for more. The current version of you already has everything you could possibly hold. You are filled to the brim. Instead, ask God for a bigger container and recognize what you already have. To expand beyond that, you must become a new version of yourself. 

Hoarding signals to the Universe that you are insecure and financially unstable. It says, "I hold onto things I don't like just in case I need them one day. I have so little faith in myself that I don't think I could buy what I really want, let alone replace what I actually need." Ironically, it's the people who walk around with the most stuff on them that have the least. This is directly correlated to humans' subconscious desire to hoard. Get rid of the stuff and you're already integrating the new you and putting space between the old version.

Time flies whether you're having fun or not. 

The Sales Profession is a lot like surfing. You have to be completely in alignment with that energy to get your desired outcome. If you're even slightly out of kilter, you'll miss the wave entirely. But on the flip side- when you're in alignment- the waves ride you effortlessly. 

"Lord, grant me weak eyes for things that are of no account and strong eyes for all thy truth." - Soren Kierkegaard

To truly heal from trauma, you don't need to relive it by talking about it. You need to experience more times where you're safe, loved, and accepted than all the times you've been abused. That is how you heal from trauma.

It is much easier to listen to your body and practice doing what feels effortless rather than going out of your way to create problems for yourself. As humans we tend to create all these obstacles just to overcome them, thus expending all our viable energy just to stay at baseline.

Slow down. Slow your conversation down.

If you're a woman with money issues, you're not alone. You've been taught that you are to blame for your inability to maintain a well paying job. What you weren't taught is that all the well paying jobs that were historically taken up by women, the guilds, the landownership, was systematically taken from us, turning our careers as midwifes, female doctors and health experts into a criminal charge, and switching predominantly female careers like doctors to now male-assumed careers of modern times. Capitalism would not survive without your unpaid household labor. Check your natal birth chart for your black moon Lilith and eros. Together they show you where you have been stolen from and suppressed, and cohesively where you will be liberated and enlivened. 

30 years ago a single woman could not buy a home by herself. No bank or institution would loan her the money for a mortgage- no matter how much she made or how good her credit score was. 

Eliminate the words in your vocabulary “need” and “want.” Instead of need, say “I require.”

I require the highest quality material. Instead of saying want, say “I desire.” Need and want are words of lack.  They drain your energy. Desire means to birth or to -sire something into reality. Notice the shift in energy when you don’t say the words want or need. As you choose more empowering words, it’ll actually elevate your energy and make you feel more confident about yourself. What you desire and require you do deserve. Smile about that.

"Your personal experiences with money make up 0.00000001% of what's happened in the world, but maybe 80% of how you think the world works."- The Psychology of Money

The amount of money you make is directly correlated with how much value you bring to others.

If you’re a buyer’s agent, you have something that homebuyers don’t have, and that’s time to look at properties. Get to know your product. Preview every single home in your territory. This way when working with a buyer, you can say “that home looked good on Zillow but it didn’t have the right layout,” “that home smelled like cat pee. Don’t waste your time,” or “that home would be perfect for you. I’ve seen every home in the area. Considering what you want and what’s best for your family, that house is the one.”

If you hate everyone, eat some food. If you think everyone hates you, take a nap. If you hate yourself, take a shower. I live by these rules. 

Women, your body is an instrument, not an ornament.

Home Baked Garlic Rosemary Artisan Bread

 

Artisan Bread with Butter

If you don't want to wait 8 hours, then bake it at night, so you can sleep while it rises. There's no getting around that. 

Ingredients:

For the Roasted Garlic:

1 head garlic

Extra-virgin olive oil

Coarse sea salt and freshly ground black pepper

For the Bread:

11/2 cups water, room temperature (at or near

70°F/21°C)

1 teaspoon active dry yeast

3 cups bread or all-purpose flour, plus more for dusting

1/2 teaspoon dried oregano

1 teaspoon kosher or fine sea salt

2 teaspoons finely chopped rosemary, plus more to sprinkle on top

1 whole head roasted garlic, smashed

1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil

Instructions:

Roast the Garlic:

Preheat oven to 400°F (204°C). Slice the garlic head in half and drizzle the exposed cloves with olive oil. Season with salt and pepper. Wrap in foil and roast on a baking sheet for 40 minutes. Once roasted, let it cool and remove the cloves from their skins. Set aside. 

If you don't have foil or don't want to bake it, you can also activate the garlic by throwing the whole thing with skin on in a pan on medium high-high heat with oil, salt, and pepper.

Activate the Yeast:

Add yeast to the room temperature water and let it sit for 10-15 minutes until it starts to bubble. Don't forget to stir it. If it sits on top, it won't quite activate as fast. The bubbles aren't grandiose, they're really small. 

Mix the Dough:

In a large bowl, stir together the flour, oregano, salt, and chopped rosemary. Add the yeast mixture, roasted garlic, and olive oil to the bowl.

Use a rubber spatula to mix everything until just combined. The dough will be sticky and stringy with a bit of flour still around the edges.

Let the Dough Rise:

Cover the dough and let it rise in a warm spot for 8-10 hours or until it has doubled in size.

Shape the Dough:

Once the dough has risen, turn it out onto a floured surface. Gently fold it into itself to form a soft ball.

Place the dough, seam side up, into a floured proofing bowl. Cover and refrigerate for at least 1 hour, up to 24-48 hours.

Prepare to Bake:

Preheat the oven to 450°F (232°C) with a Dutch oven or covered baking vessel inside. Turn the dough out onto parchment paper, seam side down, and gently shape it if needed. Score the top of the dough with a sharp knife.

Bake the Bread:

Carefully place the dough (still on the parchment) into the preheated Dutch oven. Cover and bake for 30 minutes, then remove the cover and bake for an additional 15-20 minutes until the top is golden brown and the loaf sounds hollow when tapped.

Left Brain | Right Brain: Cain and Abel

We've all heard the story of Cain and Abel. Cain was a gardener who offered his first harvest. Abel was a shepherd who offered his firstborn lamb. God was mad because apparently his dietary habits are pickier than my cousin Emma's, who survived off only chicken nuggets and Mac n Cheese the first eight years of her life.

If God isn't just a picky eater, what is this story actually trying to tell us? What if the Bible isn’t a historical record of ancient sibling rivalry, but a highly encoded psychological manual for the human body and brain?

Fast forward to the 1950s. Neurobiologist Roger Sperry starts snipping the corpus callosum. The corpus Callosum is the thick bridge of fibers connecting the left and right hemispheres of the brain. He started experimenting in animals, and later, he treated humans with epilepsy. What he discovered changed everything: when you cut the bridge, you get two distinct, independent minds living in one skull.

The Left Brain emerged as the talker. It’s analytical, verbal, logical, and obsessed with literal details. The Right Brain doesn't have the ability to formulate words; rather, it's silent, but incredibly deep. It deals with spatial awareness, emotional intuition, and the big-picture connection to everything around it.

Now look back at Genesis.

Cain is the quintessential Left Brain. He’s a gardener. He manipulates the earth, measures his crops, calculates his yield, and works within rigid structures. When it’s time to offer a sacrifice, he brings the literal fruits of his analytical labor.

Abel is the Right Brain. He’s a shepherd, dealing with life, flow, instinct, and raw connection. He offers the firstborn lamb which is a symbolic sacrifice of the ego, a direct offering from the heart.

Why was God displeased with Cain? Because the Left Brain was never meant to be the master. It’s supposed to be the steward. But because the Left Brain possesses the power of language, it thinks it’s in charge. It talks over the quiet, intuitive Right Brain.

According to Dr. Iain McGilchrist, who wrote a massive, groundbreaking book called The Master and His Emissary, the right brain is supposed to be the true master. The right brain silently receives, holds space, and sees the bigger picture of reality. It is deep and understands the true meaning of things. The Left Brain is supposed to be the Emissary. The Emissary is a brilliant servant sent into the trenches to handle details, manipulate tools, and organize data.

But the Emissary got arrogant. Because the Left Brain is analytical and possesses the power of language, it convinced itself that it was the true Master. It staged a coup, hijacked the system, and locked the real Master in the basement.

Let’s push the boundary even further. This goes beyond science and into the realm of gender archetypes.

The Left Brain, Cain, and the Emissary represent the Hyper-Masculine archetype: structure, action, penetration, logic, building, and asserting dominion. It says, Look what I built with my hands, I demand recognition. It overanalyzes, perhaps to a point of paralysis. And it never stops talking.

The Right Brain, Abel, and the Master represents the Divine Feminine archetype: nurturing, receiving, intuition, emotional depth, and holistic unity.

Cain couldn't handle that his structured, calculated offerings weren't the ultimate truth. He couldn't stand that Abel had a direct, effortless connection to the Divine. So, what does a threatened, power-hungry Left Brain do when its ego is bruised?

It eliminates the competition. Cain slays Abel. The Emissary murders the Master. The masculine suppresses the feminine. 

Perhaps, you could even say this subconscious awareness of the feminine's silent leadership is what causes men who aren't secure in their power to lash out in domestic violence. The abusers fear that the feminine wields more power than they're comfortable even considering.  

Irregardless, when Cain kills Abel, it’s a metaphor for a society and an individual psychology where the hyper-masculine, analytical ego completely crushes the intuitive, feminine soul. In our society, there is a daily battle between the ego and the higher self, and for a lot of people, the ego wins. We live in a left-brain dominant world, wondering why we feel so disconnected from the divine, when the answer was encoded in the very first pages of the book: we let the left brain murder the right.

Relationships: Karmic, Limerence, Dharmic

Shakti and Shiva: The Essence of Dharmic Love

Relationships are fundamental to human growth. Our first relationships are usually Karmic. We get into relationships with people who push our buttons or push us to fix and heal something within ourselves that we might not have been aware of. Limerence is an extreme attraction to something. Have you ever had a type that you were attracted to, for example, I was super attracted to the funny guy who was super secure in himself, you might be attracted to artists, and its because we're projecting what we really desire and actually have within ourselves onto someone else. I also want to talk about historically how women have felt the need to find a man to provide financial security. But once you become that financial security yourself, who you're attracted to will change. When you become and awaken these aspects in yourself, and when you no longer "need" someone to complete these aspects of you to make you whole, that is when you step into a Dharma relationship. In a Dharma relationship, two wholes come together to usher in a new wave a consciousness effortlessly, naturally, to our planet. Today, I want to talk about three different aspects of relationships: Karmic, Limerence, and Dharmic. 

When you find yourself attracted to men or women who seem to trigger your deepest insecurities, you are likely entangled in a Karmic relationship. These aren't meant to be your happily ever after. Instead, they act as a mirror, reflecting the unhealed parts of your psyche. If you find yourself repeatedly falling for partners who abandon you, ignore your boundaries, or require constant fixing, it's a good time to take a look at what the universe is guiding you to heal. The lesson here is to stop looking outward for validation and to start cultivating that worth within yourself.

The Illusion of Limerence

From there, we often stumble into the trap of Limerence. This is that intoxicating, obsessive infatuation where we put someone on a pedestal. But here is the plot twist: you aren't actually in love with them; you are in love with a projection of yourself.

When I was deeply attracted to the funny, fiercely secure guy, it wasn't just about him. It was because my soul was craving that exact sense of humor and security within myself. If you find yourself chronically infatuated with artists, free spirits, or hyper-successful tycoons, ask yourself: What quality do they possess that I am denying myself permission to embody?

The Evolution of Choice: From Survival to Soul

This shift becomes incredibly obvious when we look at our material world. Historically, women were conditioned to seek partners primarily for financial survival and physical security. When your baseline motivation is "I need someone to take care of me," your radar will naturally tune into providers, even if they aren't an emotional match.

But look what happens when the script flips. Once you become your own financial security—when you pay your own bills, build your own empire, and hold down your own fort—the old checklist crumbles. You no longer need a transaction; you desire a connection. When survival is off the table, your attraction elevates from a place of lack to a place of alignment.

Stepping Into Your Dharmic Relationship

When you finally heal the karmic loops, reclaim the pieces of yourself you were projecting through limerence, and secure your own foundation, something miraculous happens. You stop looking for a missing puzzle piece because you realize you are already a complete puzzle.

This is the gateway to a Dharmic relationship.

A Dharmic relationship is not about two halves desperately clinging together to make a whole. It is the collision of two fully realized, whole individuals. There is no codependency, no subconscious testing, and no desperation. Instead, you come together effortlessly and naturally. A Dharmic union doesn't drain your energy; it multiplies it, creating a peaceful, stable baseline that actually uppers the consciousness of the planet just by existing.

So, take a look at your current relationship patterns. Are you healing a debt, chasing a projection, or building an empire of conscious love?

The Mentality Shift from a W2 to a 1099

 

The Lone Real Estate Agent

If you’re like me, you didn’t start in sales. You got a regular job, worked a predetermined set of hours, and got paid around the same amount every other week. You held a position at this job, with a title, glamorous or not, and you quickly learned that if you didn’t show up without notice one day, everything would fall into complete chaos for the work day. Not to mention, your coworkers and boss would seriously resent you. If you did this more than once, you were done-cut, fired, let go-and replaced by the next overly qualified resume that looked just like yours.

You then realized you were never going to get rich renting out your time anyway. You’re giving up the best years of your life helping someone else get rich and accomplish their dream. Anyway, you didn’t like the idea of only having the time and money to do something when you’re too old to want to do anything. 

After your 3 day couch bender of Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles, you decide you want to get into sales. You were enamored with the idea of selling real estate, getting commission checks on 8M dollar properties. You probably wouldn’t drive a Rolls Royce yourself because you’re not a pretentious a-hole, but you liked the idea of knowing it was possible.

You get your last check in the mail, scoff at those poor suckers you left behind, feeling sorry for them that they’re too scared to leave the endless grind. But a flutter of excitement dances from your chest to your fingers as you type your card number into the online real estate course shopping cart. 

Your $260.00 purchase completed, and you feel like a 15th century explorer charting the new horizon. 

After months of learning crazy words you never heard of, like encroachments, encumbrances, and other “legalese,” you pay $400 to take the exam and pay for the application fee- a fee that the online course conveniently forgot to mention in their advertising- and you pass. 

Letters from brokerages everywhere flood your mailbox. You feel worried for a second because you made a promise to yourself not to ever buy anything from an advertisement that reached out to you for business promising you’ll make big money (that time you got terribly swindled out of $300 for a dropshipping business that didn’t make a dollar, it actually cost you $100). 

You choose a brokerage, and suddenly, the cage door flies open. You have total freedom. No clock-in times, no manager breathing down your neck, no mandatory desk hours. It feels liberating for exactly twenty-four hours. Then the psychological shock sets in: if you do nothing, absolutely nothing happens. Your calendar is a blank canvas of terrifying silence.

To fill the void, you volunteer to host an open house. You spend ten brutal hours over Saturday and Sunday standing on polished hardwood, smiling until your jaw aches. Eighty people stream through the front door. Eighty opportunities, you think. Except almost every single one of them walks in with an agent already attached to their hip. You feel like a glorified tour guide, handing buyers to the listing agent on a silver platter.

Later that evening, your phone buzzes. It is a text from the listing agent. Five offers are on the table, and counteroffers are already flying. You type back a congratulatory message, forcing a genuine tone into the screen. You are happy for her, truly. But a cold realization settles in your chest. You just gave up your entire weekend, sweated through your clothes, and worked ten hours for zero dollars, effectively earning someone else a massive commission check off your sweat and tears. Welcome to the 1099 life.

Just as the internal spiral starts, an experienced agent stops by the house before lockup. She sees the exhaustion in your eyes and talks you down from the ledge. She started five years ago and remembers the exact shock of moving from a predictable paycheck to the wild west of independent contracting. She hands you a perspective shift about renting and the grind that sticks: W2 employees can buy a house with 3% down because banks love predictable stagnation. A 1099 entrepreneur has to show up with 20% down because self-employment requires proving your worth upfront. The day will come when you cross that threshold, she promises, but right now, you just have to swallow your pride, put in the work, and hunt for your own leads.

It clicks. It connects deeply with that concept from Naval Ravikant: play long-term games with long-term people. All the real returns in life — whether in wealth, relationships, or knowledge — come from compound interest. Right now, you are just depositing the first, painful rounds of capital into a game that takes years to pay out.

But exactly what skin you have in the game is exactly what you get in return. 

“One day your net worth will match your sweat equity.”